When I begin my work with couples, I want to create a safe space where both of you feel genuinely supported and can share what is happening from your individual points of view.
My role as your relationship counsellor isn’t to judge what is said or who is right or wrong. I begin by trying to ensure I understand and follow what is happening between you during our counselling sessions.
We want to unpack the behaviours, thoughts, and feelings that trigger reactive responses and the underlying emotional longings that are not being met. Such patterns can be described as a dance in which both parties know the moves, and as they spin around each other, they keep getting the same result. Your relationship may also have been impacted by issues with your sex life or mental health, or perhaps you’re working through the persistent trust issues that arise following an affair.
My intention is to help you find new approaches to your relationship issues that nurture the love you want rather than inadvertently push each other away.
After the first session, I will also meet with each of you alone for one individual session, and then normally all further sessions are with you together.